Vibrations. They’re more than the physical projection of minutiae, or the oscillation of air molecules. For as much as they occur around us, they’re simultaneously emitted from us. Each and every entity, not just on the face of this Earth, but the universe in it’s entirety is vibrating at a unique frequency. From a cosmic perspective, molecule by molecule we’ve all been vibrating equidistantly away from the heart of the Big Bang. Could it be that our entire lives, as we ebb and flow through the world we’re most attracted to those molecules that were in fact within the closest proximity to us when the Big Bang happened? And then, take the idea of two tuning forks set to an equal resonant frequency; one static – the other made to vibrate. If you bring the two tuning forks together, the tuning fork at rest raises to the vibrating frequency of audible fork. In the same way, maybe that’s an underlying science to instant friends – those people who find a strange affinity towards, but can’t place the time or place; soul recognizes soul when they’re vibrating on the same frequency plane.
Vibrations. We all have them, and we’re all tuned into them whether we recognize it or not. It’s the warmth of a hug from a friend and the ice cold, clandestine stare of a stranger, the enticing diatribe from a family member and the off-putting physical stance of a foe. Whenever we feel, we emit a vibration – and whenever we act or speak, doubly so. From the first breath, up through this very moment – you’ve been a human battery, charging and recharging on the vibrations raining down from the world; where external chaos breeds mental calamity and physical tranquility evolves from calm surroundings. As we’re propelled into maturity by life experiences compounded by emotional epiphanies, the goals and passions we seek in life changes as do the types of personalities we desire in our lives; along the way, we pick up a few friends here, a few others there….and at other times we undoubtedly, unfortunately, outgrow friendships of our former selves and end up leaving a few wonderful people behind along the way. That’s not to say their effect hasn’t been left, our shared past is my prologue – my future story wouldn’t be complete without their cameo in an earlier scene.
Vibrations. Within each and every action, interaction – reaction – the vibrations we’ve exchanged have shaped, manifested and evolved into my current world. So it’s only right that in turn, we acknowledge our own ripple effect on the world. Smiles to frowns, bubbly laughter and emotional explosions, private conversations unintended for public ears, words spoken out of turn or context, unfriendly fire in the form of gossip and flippant phrases better left to your imagination; over the course of a day, a week – a year, how many ripples have you left, intentionally and unintentionally in the lives of others? Do you realize that over the course of your life, they’ve been compounding around you? Innocent conversation converts into malicious musings, and sonic snap judgments are all too easy to make – especially out of context. Quite simply: you effect the universe in more ways than you can ever understand. Your physical presence can say as much, if not more, than the words coming from your mouth and your intonation and intent play as crucial a role as your elocution. As an empath, I’m constantly bombarded by the everyday energies of those around me, but that’s not to say those who aren’t are immune – they’re simply not as aware of the effects.
Nostalgia, though a beautiful reminder of the way things were – is also by in large the reason we get nasty expectation hangovers. The stark irony of being blessed with a beautiful series of friendships over the last year is that it’s caused pause and perusal of the ghosts of friendships past. The toxic friendships that manifested during times of strife and the beautiful friendships borne out of shared genius. I’ve always been incredibly receptive to the forces around me but it’s only been recently that I’ve felt understood their full weight. The good news, is that what has been seen cannot be unseen – once you acknowledge the gravity of your weight on the world, there’s no going back. As they say in the Matrix: there’s a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path and the only way I saw that I could be a better version of myself was to elevate my every day life. Somehow, while in the throttles of passionate, intense and at times subversive life experiences, my soul grew into my twenty nine year old body. I was vibrating on a higher frequency, attracting other passionate souls who were pushing their own personal boundaries while reveling in the wild ride of life. So, how exactly does one raise their personal vibration? I have nine ways to do it.
[Rule #1] Treat others the way you want to be treated.
It’s the Golden Rule and Newton’s Third Law, not to mention – we’ve been learning it since Grade School, so it should be relatively easy to remember. The universe reacts to the energy you put out and the friends you keep are in effect a direct reflection of who you are at your core. The second half of the rule, often not mentioned, is never – ever – let someone else’s behavior prevent you from being the person that you are. The behavior of others is just that – their behavior, and it’s not directed at any one person more than the sun’s ray’s fall on any one part of the world. Adjust and adapt, and if you’re not keen on a person – just know that there are millions upon millions of people in this world, just waiting to meet someone like you.
[Rule #2] A Friend of a Friend is a Friend of Mine
Though a lot easier said than done, this isn’t actually that hard. That circle of friends you have, well – let’s just put it this way: you’re not their first friend, right? They come with chums from Grade School and Band Camp, Summer Camps and Basketball Teams, College Fraternities and Study Abroad Programs; they’re located around the world and chances are, they’re just as wonderful as you. When the opportunity arises to adopt them into your social circle, think of your mutual friends as your flotations devices; don’t dilly dally in the shallow end – jump on in and swim a little deeper, you might just make a new friend for life.
[Rule #3] Reach Out and Touch (or, just hug; whatever)
It’s 2015 and I’m so sick of meeting people with a handshake. Historically, we shook hands with our right hand – the dominant hand – to signal we weren’t wielding a weapon. At work or while doing business I’ll let’em slide, but in personal, social situations, I want my soul to touch your soul – but I’ll settle for a hug. Hugs have a calming nature and a healing effect; long hugs can produce the same bonding hormones as sex and hugs are scientifically proven to have healing powers. Have you hugged a human today?
[Rule #4] Always true to being you, unless you can be a better version of you – then be that.
You want to know what the best version of you is? It’s you. You are the reason people are attracted to you, and you are beautiful – so never stop being yourself. It’s easy to become the friend who always says ‘No’ and turns down invitations, and equally easy to become a ‘Yes’ man; instead, throw those words out the window, say what’s actually on your mind and set some boundaries. And remember, just because you’ve set boundaries doesn’t mean they’re permanent fixtures – that’s the beauty of being you: you adapt, evolve, and become a better version of who you were because of it.
[Rule #5] Respect
Aretha sang it best: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It starts with you, because to get respect – you need to respect yourself. Respect your own intelligence, respect your body and the things you both put into it food wise and get out of it physically. Once that falls into place, then there’s respecting the world around you. Respecting the personal space of others, whether that’s physical, mental, emotional or temporal, is the first step to garnering it back towards you.
[Rule #6] Let It Go
As Shakespeare put it: Past is prologue. The past is a beautiful introduction to your story – it’s a wonderful foundation for your current condition, but it’s not the story. In much the same mannor, the events and circumstances of your friends lives before you are interesting building blocks in their personal puzzle, but the more you focus on them – the less you’re living in the moment of the friendship. Don’t dwell on grievances or lavish on the lives and things that could have been, instead celebrate greatness and simply enjoy being
[Rule #7] Meditate On It
This too, shall pass. It’s an old diatribe but it most definitely holds true, time heals all – but what time actually does is give us the personal separation of space from an event. The more space we have, the less personal it becomes and the more we can think of a macrocosmic answer to a problem we shouldn’t have taken so personally to begin with. Just remember, the best way to get an answer, is to ask the right question.
[Rule #8] Honor The Capacity for Change
Hi, Pot! I’m Kettle. We’re black! You aren’t the same person you were last year, and you definitely aren’t the same person you were ten years ago. You could have some of the same passions and proclivities, but on the overall – experience has a habit of evolving us, with or without our consent. If we can acknowledge our own maturation, then we surely can’t deny the growth of anyone else.
[Rule #9] Practice Random Acts of Kindness.
Pay it forward. As a general rule, I only ask people to pay me back if either I know I’ll never see them again or I purposely intend on it. If you’re my friend, we’ll hang out again. You can get the next beer, coffee, dinner, ice cream, etc…whatever it is, there’ll be a next time – because I want there to be.
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